FAMILY RESILIENCE: TRUE STORIES TO REMEMBER Part 1
These stories discuss situations others have faced. Think how you would choose to respond if it happened to you. Think of your best options and then put them in a plan to communicate them.
1) CASE ONE: A family lost everything in a hurricane. They had several choices that they could make. They chose to move to a distant state for better weather and a new beginning. They found a place to live and they got new jobs. They spent a year in the new place but missed the old neighborhood where they had grown up. In a sudden decision they moved back to their damaged home and decided to live in a trailer provided for them while they rebuilt. At the time they did this they were broke but decided that it was worth starting over again with others they knew. They had a tough time but it was the right choice for them.
You must consider if your family should stay or move after an event. Are there health issues that require you to be in a certain climate? How much stress can you handle? Can you live with minimum essentials or do you need more comfort? Tents and trailers can be hard for young kids and the elderly. Do you have a trade or profession that can be moved to a different city, or do you need to consider a temporary job choice? What do you need to do?
2) CASE TWO: A family had almost no time to get into the safe house before the tornado hit. The problem that they had was that not everyone was together when the event happened. Aside from the loss of property they had, two family members that were missing when they came out of the shelter to see what had happened. The two family members had been picked up by the wind while driving in their car. They and the car were thrown two miles away from the house. It took several days to find them. They had been badly banged up and were in no shape to make a phone call. Away from their hometown no one immediately recognized them. A search of hospitals done by the family was how they were found.
You must consider what information you want available about family members when they go missing. Are there things that you could tell aid workers that would make their time with your kids or relatives easier and more effective? Would you benefit from having an easy access plan available? Do you know what you will do when a family member is injured? Who will stay with the patient, and who will go with the family to a safe place? If you need a public shelter, do you know what your local choices are? Are there friends out of state that you can go to? Do you want to leave the area or stay to be in the middle of what is going on? What do you do?
3) CASE THREE: A family decided that seaside living was definitely for them. They were lucky in that they had two homes but loved the seaside best. When tidal surge destroyed their home, they pulled themselves together and rebuilt more beautifully than before. But happiness only lasted a short while until their home by the sea was destroyed again. The second time it happened they had a major dilemma. In this case they cleaned up the debris and sold the lot of land. They will never live seaside again.
You must consider what your priorities are. What do care about the most? Where do you want to be? Where do you want to live and who do you want to live with. How much are you willing to give up having what you want? Will your family be safe if you stay where you are? What can you compromise on and what must you have. Be true to your gut feelings and understand why you make the choices you make. What do you do?