A Process to Halting the Growth of Fear
Finding a way to stop the growth of terror and fear must be a process that people work out for themselves. This program is a positive mindset project that definitely allows children and young adults to learn a new way to respond to difficult situations.
Putting these points together, we find ourselves needing to teach our children the real facts about disasters, the perspectives of our neighbors and the importance of culture and faith that must be a part of any critical planning that is done. Kids need to know who they are, what they can compromise on and what their priorities are for a long term recovery.
It is very hard to teach people the emptiness that is present when an event takes away the life that you have worked so hard to achieve. The situation becomes an internal conflict that you must fight to survive.
A Non-Emotional Approach
Contingency planning is specific, pragmatic, and detailed in its circular function. A circle offers children the ability to understand sliding to the bottom and then having several stairways that are available to climb back to the top. Circular thinking is critical for the understanding of how to move forward after a major disruption in life. It allows you to be able to deal with the fact that normal activity is often not possible. The purpose of Circular planning is to allow you to change your course in a temporary downward direction to decrease the amount of pressure that you have to deal with at one given moment in time. You choose something to do that allows you to tread water in your own environment while you pull yourself together and make plans to return to your normal life. Allowing yourself the freedom to stand still for a period of time to allow you to think clearly and plan can be priceless.
At the end of the day as the dust settles, you may have lost all of your material possessions, but you will still have your CIRCLE PLAN. When your children ask you what is going to happen to them now, you can say that we will all sit down together and discuss again the CIRCLE plan that we have already made as a family.
The Knowledge to Take Action
Disasters put everyday people into their own personal war with an internal conflict that can be overwhelming to recover from. In the United States, many people view this personal turmoil as a sign of weakness that should not be accommodated. There is no such thing as a sub-class citizen. Wisdom comes from knowledge, and action comes from understanding what to do. Having the correct mindset and a plan puts you in the position to win back your life.
When I became a survivor of a disaster event, it took me ten years to recover from the physical damage I sustained and become myself again. The journey was unbelievable and the fact that I was a doctor did not help me when I needed a plan for recovery. When something severe happens to you are treated differently by others as if you cannot think for yourself anymore. You are perceived differently. Your life changes physically, emotionally and your social life changes because you are no longer the same person that you were before the event. You need to be ready to remember who you are and what you want. This plan was made to help you save your ideas and thoughts and allow you to share them with the ones who care about you. I will never forget the first time I was told that my opinion did not matter because other people were better equipped to make decisions for me. I was speechless for days.If I had my plan available it would have made my wishes known and understood better.
My dad always had a plan that we were told to learn. He said to stop where we are and look for a safe place to sit after something happens. Then if we were hurt, get help fast. The next step was to figure out where we were verses where we should be. He wanted us to take the time to figure out what to do before we made our first move. The point was to make sure we made the least amount of bad choices available. His ideas were basic, but they are rarely remembered by people when there is a state of emotional distress. He made us ready for the fact that bad things would happen and he set up ten rules for us to follow. Today I remember every rule that I learned at the age of five. And when I fix things I say' thank you daddy'. I had no plan, but I followed his. Every family needs to do something similar in planning so that they can remember what they need to do automatically. You plan and we communicate it to your network.
To help you start thinking about situations we have included true family stories. They are real stories from people I have met and treated. I cannot stress enough how important pre-planning is for a good result after something goes very wrong. We will give you 24/7 access to your plan for changes and a notification service to 10 people that matter to you., By having the program web based and on your phone, you can adjust your plan as your life changes. Information that you need these 10 people to know can be sent anyday and anytime. We are also available to answer your questions. But first you must seriously consider what your family needs are and enter the plan in the portal so that your plan choices can be accessed and followed in the middle of chaos by anyone who is there to help you. In this way you have control over your life in good and bad times. Personal control is the driving force behind almost all decisions people make in their lives. STAY IN CONTROL AND MAKE A CONTINGENCY PLAN NOW!
Dr. Cheryl Lynne Galler
To learn more about family contingency planning, contact OwnYourCrisis,Inc in Rockville Centre, New York.