FAMILY RESILIENCE: TRUE STORIES TO REMEMBER Part 2
4) CASE FOUR: A family had to deal with a sudden death of a loved one. In this case it had been a sudden heart attack that was not expected. But in truth it could have been a gunshot wound, or falling into a deep hole or a deadly reaction to a medication. The way it happens does not change the reality that someone is gone. This family was torn apart. Some felt guilty due to the lack of the involvement that they had had. Others felt a relief over no longer having any responsibility for the person gone. How do you deal with the sudden gap in your life? This family could not deal well with the situation, and the result was that the older members of the family left the house and the children stayed in the home. The resolution here was a very messy one since there were a lot of bad feelings all around.
You must consider how you will deal with loss. Do you pull everyone together and work as a team?
5) CASE FIVE: A family had a major house fire. There had been a gas leak that they were not aware of. The house was lost. They had to spend money to stay in a local hotel so that their kids could stay in school. The insurance money they got was not enough to rebuild back the way that they wanted, as well as pay the taxes that were due on the property. They did not want to leave the area because of the friends that they had. Leaving their home town would be a major life change. In this case, their friends decided to offer them a no interest loan so that they could fix their house and stay.
You must consider what you can afford to do financially. Do you have savings or investments?
6) CASE SIX: A family was caught off guard on what started out as a routine day. The mother got everyone where they should be and started off to work. She never got to work because there was a car accident that involved her but was not her fault. She was one of the millions of people who find themselves in the wrong place at the wrong time. This event changed her life and that of her family. She could no longer work due to her injuries and the family economics became a major issue. In this particular case, the parents decided to sell their home and down size their life style in a different area.
You must consider what you can and cannot live without. You are not yourself after a trauma and your choices change with you.